Using Cold Reads To Get Girls To Like You

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Using Cold Reads To Get Girls To Like You

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My name is Dean Cortez and in “Mack Tactics,” my best-selling seduction strategy manual for men, I say that originality is the single most important characteristic that you can communicate to a woman -- from the way you dress, to the way in which you walk up to the girls and start talking to them and flirting.

Learning how to meet girls and build sexual chemistry really begins there.

However, when you fail to make an original impression, she’s going to certainly lump you in with the last 43 dorks who tried to buy her a drink -- and within a few minutes of you paying for her overpriced drink, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friend.”

(Don't you just hate when girls say that? As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of water and food...)

When this happens, it leaves guys wondering how to get girls to even give them a fair chance!

Essentially, the key to forming a link with a woman is to engage her attention and prompt her to share information about herself. Then you’ll say to her how much you relate to what she is saying, and create a bond with her.

Certainly, one of my favorite conversational tactics for making this happen is using Cold Reads.

This method, which is used to huge effect by palm readers, psychics and such, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.

The key to Cold Reads is that these observations you are making are applicable to virtually anyone. Yet there are interesting reasons why they work so effectively}.

The first reason is that people are self-centered, and we generally agree to claims about ourselves that point toward how we wish to be.

Another reason is that people are basically vain, and we all want people to think that we're unique. Although Cold Reads are really just vague generalizations -- which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the cute girl you start talking to at the bar -- as humans, we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

The bottom line, really, is that you need to quit asking the same old boring “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) When I'm in a bar or a nightclub, talking to a girl and wanting to make a quick connection with her, I'll use a Cold Read:

“Y’know, Lisa, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong impression when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re in reality a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”

Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to depend on people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who you really trusted. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them.”

Another Cold Read could be, "I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it cautious and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you’re impulsive and adventurous, and you do take chances...and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”

So if the girl agrees with one of these “reads” -- and seriously, I’ve never had a woman flat-out disagree -- I’ll proceed by telling her that I can totally understand her, because I’m the same way.

This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a brief story -- one that shows how I’m the same type of person.

(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have some short stories to exemplify how you embody those same qualities.)

A similar maneuver is using “Barnum statements,” named after the circus showman P.T. Barnum. These statements apply to just about anybody, but give the impression that you’re tapping into her inner psyche.

One of my favorites is, "I get the feeling that something's been on your mind lately. You're on the verge of making a big decision in your life, aren’t you."

If you think about it, pretty much all people, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is significant to us, at least). Nevertheless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her.

The girl will then almost certainly give you more details -- and now you’re engaged in a meaningful, authentic dialogue instead of wasting time with generic chit-chat.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeat back what the subject has said, as if the cold reader already knew the answer. If the girl you're talking to affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, nod shrewdly and say, "Yes, that's right, and you’re really having a hard time with it." Claim her answer as your own.

Some other Cold Reads that are fuzzy yet “profound”:

“You have a deep need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”

“You’ve got a secret talent, or a passion, that most people aren't aware of, and you want to pursue it- but something is holding you back.”

“There are times when you’re really social and extroverted. But other times, you’re shy and withdrawn.”

Now that you understand how Cold Reads work, you can cook up your own. Based on her vibe, what she's wearing, and the way she reacts during the early stage of the interaction, you should be able to use a “read” that applies to her.

The Cold Read is simply one case in point of an original, provocative conversational ploy that makes it easy to understand how to get girls to chat with you. To learn the comprehensive arsenal, and how to use them with expert accuracy in any scenario, visit the Mack Tactics website, download our FREE 75-page seduction book, and get ready to take your skills with women and lifestyle to a whole new level.

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<h1> Using Cold Reads To Get Girls To Like You</h1> Author: <a href='http://www.articleseen.com/profile_Dean Cortez.aspx'>Dean Cortez</a> My name is Dean Cortez and in “Mack Tactics,” my best-selling seduction strategy manual for men, I say that originality is the single most important characteristic that you can communicate to a woman -- from the way you dress, to the way in which you walk up to the girls and start talking to them and flirting.

Learning how to meet girls and build sexual chemistry really begins there.

However, when you fail to make an original impression, she’s going to certainly lump you in with the last 43 dorks who tried to buy her a drink -- and within a few minutes of you paying for her overpriced drink, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friend.”

(Don't you just hate when girls say that? As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of water and food...)

When this happens, it leaves guys wondering how to get girls to even give them a fair chance!

Essentially, the key to forming a link with a woman is to engage her attention and prompt her to share information about herself. Then you’ll say to her how much you relate to what she is saying, and create a bond with her.

Certainly, one of my favorite conversational tactics for making this happen is using Cold Reads.

This method, which is used to huge effect by palm readers, psychics and such, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.

The key to Cold Reads is that these observations you are making are applicable to virtually anyone. Yet there are interesting reasons why they work so effectively}.

The first reason is that people are self-centered, and we generally agree to claims about ourselves that point toward how we wish to be.

Another reason is that people are basically vain, and we all want people to think that we're unique. Although Cold Reads are really just vague generalizations -- which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the cute girl you start talking to at the bar -- as humans, we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

The bottom line, really, is that you need to quit asking the same old boring “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) When I'm in a bar or a nightclub, talking to a girl and wanting to make a quick connection with her, I'll use a Cold Read:

“Y’know, Lisa, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong impression when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re in reality a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”

Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to depend on people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who you really trusted. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them.”

Another Cold Read could be, "I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it cautious and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you’re impulsive and adventurous, and you do take chances...and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”

So if the girl agrees with one of these “reads” -- and seriously, I’ve never had a woman flat-out disagree -- I’ll proceed by telling her that I can totally understand her, because I’m the same way.

This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a brief story -- one that shows how I’m the same type of person.

(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have some short stories to exemplify how you embody those same qualities.)

A similar maneuver is using “Barnum statements,” named after the circus showman P.T. Barnum. These statements apply to just about anybody, but give the impression that you’re tapping into her inner psyche.

One of my favorites is, "I get the feeling that something's been on your mind lately. You're on the verge of making a big decision in your life, aren’t you."

If you think about it, pretty much all people, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is significant to us, at least). Nevertheless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her.

The girl will then almost certainly give you more details -- and now you’re engaged in a meaningful, authentic dialogue instead of wasting time with generic chit-chat.

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeat back what the subject has said, as if the cold reader already knew the answer. If the girl you're talking to affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, nod shrewdly and say, "Yes, that's right, and you’re really having a hard time with it." Claim her answer as your own.

Some other Cold Reads that are fuzzy yet “profound”:

“You have a deep need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”

“You’ve got a secret talent, or a passion, that most people aren't aware of, and you want to pursue it- but something is holding you back.”

“There are times when you’re really social and extroverted. But other times, you’re shy and withdrawn.”

Now that you understand how Cold Reads work, you can cook up your own. Based on her vibe, what she's wearing, and the way she reacts during the early stage of the interaction, you should be able to use a “read” that applies to her.

The Cold Read is simply one case in point of an original, provocative conversational ploy that makes it easy to understand how to get girls to chat with you. To learn the comprehensive arsenal, and how to use them with expert accuracy in any scenario, visit the Mack Tactics website, download our FREE 75-page seduction book, and get ready to take your skills with women and lifestyle to a whole new level. About the Author: Come to the Mack Tactics website and download our FREE 75-page seduction guide, which is filled with tips on <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.macktactics.com/how-to-approach-women.html">how to get girls</a> and become the smooth, confident "Alpha Male" that women can't resist. In under one hour you can learn <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.macktactics.com">how to meet girls</a> in any situation, without anxiety and with total confidence! Grab our free book now while we're still giving it away.
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